The Buzz About Balance

There's a lot of talk about work-life balance. So let's get into it!

What is it, really? How can you achieve it?

I bust a couple myths about it on this short episode.

 

 

Peace and ease,

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The Flow Zone and the Daily Grind

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When you're on vacation - especially the kind where you're travelling around a lot - it's such a great feeling when you get into that zone where you stop planning and just go with the flow.  Coincidences lead to amazing experiences and opportunities that are perfect for you. 

Then you come home and you suffer a bit of culture shock because you don't quite fit back into your old box anymore. You notice that you have to try harder, push a little more, repsonsibilities drag you down, and that awesome sense of ease and flow is gone. Wouldn't it be great to keep living in the zone at home?

It's definitely easier to be in the zone on vacation than back in the daily grind, but it CAN be done.

WHAT is that flow zone?

It's when you are living in alignment with your true self, when you stop worrying about the details, when you follow your intuition and it leads to the next cool experience or new friend. When you feel great and everything happens easily and perfectly - even the so-called challenges turn out for the best.

WHY does the flow zone happen more easily on vacation?

You are living in the present.

  • this is easier to do on vacation because everything is about the now. You're there to enjoy yourself and fewer details are pre-planned - you just do what you feel like (more on this in a minute).
  • in real life, you have a schedule that is not entirely up to you because you are responsible to others. Detailed planning is required to get everything done.

You are aligned with, and stay in, what Danielle LaPorte calls your core desired feelings - the 3-5 emotions you want to feel 90% of the time.

  • this is easier on vacay because that's what we have vacations for - to feel happy, relaxed, excited, engaged, free, etc.
  • you don't know how you will achieve these feelings specifically, you don't plan it, you just expect to feel great and you know it will happen, so it does.
  • you have no need to control every detail and instead, surrender to whatever happens as part of the adventure.

HOW can we live in the zone in everyday life?

Staying in the feeling you desire is at the top of the list. The rest of it comes easier if you just do this.

  • define what your core desired feelings are and then ask yourself what you can do to feel that way throughout the day. You may find ways to make a mundane task feel better, or choose a different task altogether and delegate what doesn't feel good sometimes.
  • instead of focusing on specific tasks, to-do lists, or goals, you might try focusing on your bigger intentions based on your core desired feelings and then design your actions based on moving towards your intentions. In other words, allow yourself to be more flexible in how you get there.

Living in the now is another key way to stay in the zone. You've heard all the hype around mindfulness? Being present in the moment is key because it helps you let go of the how. Trying to constantly define the how is basically worrying about the future.

  • when you live in the moment, you have an opportunity to appreciate instead of trying to control. Appreciation and gratitude is not only a statement that "I like this," but also that "I already have this." In terms of the Law of Attraction, this is a powerful mindset because that feeling of appreciating what you have is the Truth/Aligned and because there's no resistance to that, you will attract more of that high vibration.
  • In the now, you are open to noticing more coincidences, signs and opportunities, which make you feel good and grateful, which fuels more positive experiences, and keeps you in the flow zone.

As with anything you want to change in your life, you need to implement a daily practice to get good at it. The key components to practice are:

  • staying in your core desired feelings
  • letting go of controlling the how
  • living in the now
  • appreciating or being grateful for what is
  • expecting greatness - know it will happen

 

Peace and ease,

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P.S.  If you're interested in exploring the possibility of working with me one on one - to let go of stress & overwhelm and slip into the flow zone of peace, ease, health and happiness - I have space for a couple new coaching clients! To see if we're a good fit, simply click here to fill out a short questionnaire.If you're not quite ready for that, why not click here and request to join my private FB Group, where I will answer any questions you have about being your best self and optimizing your whole life wellness!

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Impostor Syndrome

 

DO YOU EVER SUFFER FROM THE IMPOSTOR SYNDROME? Feel like you're not good enough or don't know enough?

I spent a lot of years there and one of the side effects was that I realized I was a HOARDER of information.

Are you a collector, gatherer, hoarder, of other people's wisdom that you often don't implement? You'll love this short rant.

If you can relate, I'd love to know what you do for a living (or did) where this was an issue for you.

Add to the conversation below!

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How to be Happier and More Successful

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Today as I listened to Oprah interview Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project, on the Super Soul Podcast, I of course had to ask myself, “What would happier look like for me?”

Lately my message has been dancing around the mantra “Be YOU!”

Being YOU is the only way to be truly happy… and successful, and fulfilled, and balanced, and healthy, and ON purpose…

I believe that everyone’s purpose here on this planet is to be the first-rate version of themselves and in sharing their best self, to enrich the world in some way – hopefully by doing what they’re passionate about (because that’s the easiest way to be your best self).

But what does it really mean to be your best self?

Gretchen Rubin has a list of “commandments” for herself. Here are some of them:

  • Be me
  • Let it go (negativity of any kind)
  • Act the way you want to feel
  • Do it now
  • Be polite and be fair
  • Enjoy the process (which allows you to let go of the outcome)
  • No calculation (let go of “score-keeping” and the need for praise)
  • There is only love

You might want to create your own self-identified “principles to live by” to help you get clear on what’s most important – your core values, strengths, weaknesses and interests. It creates a great foundation for determining what specific actions you could take on a daily basis to increase your happiness levels and be more YOU. It helps you strip away the things that don’t align with your core values.

But what came to me today that I really want to share, is that the underlying piece of it all is SELF LOVE.

In order to be our best self, we have to love our self… right?

What does it mean to truly love ourselves?

I think typically, we say, “yeah sure, I love myself” – but it’s a superficial love.

To help understand the difference, consider the way you love your child, or the way you loved your partner in the early days of your relationship – when they could do no wrong.

You saw beauty in their flaws and it only made you love them more. You felt loving compassion for the whole of them, even when – especially when – they couldn’t have compassion for themselves.

What does it take to feel that way about yourself?

Well, first you have to acknowledge and OWN all of you. The good, the bad and the ugly too. When I say “own it” I mean you have to ACCEPT it. Which is NOT to say you have to continue to choose to be this way or that way forever more (we always have choice), but you have to recognize its role in making you who you are today and be able to say “yeah, that’s really me” and have loving compassion for yourself, without judgement.

When you’re looking at the not-so-admirable aspects of yourself, be careful not to confuse compassion with a pity-party. This is NOT about feeling sorry for yourself. That’s a waste of time and energy. When your child is facing a challenge because of something they said or did, do you feel pity for them? No. You feel compassionate. You know they are learning an important lesson and they have the strength to come out the other side as a better person because of it. Feeling sorry for someone doesn’t help them learn anything.

Pity restricts: it's a roadblock; it shuts down choice and learning; it proclaims that where you are is only negative; it stops the flow of energy. 

Compassion flows: it guides; it sees many sides; it allows for learning; it allows for a shift; it allows choice.

So when you are looking at your so-called flaws, remember to use THOSE eyes – the same compassionate eyes that you use to see the beauty in the flaws of your child or your honeymoon-phase lover.

Life was never meant to be a struggle. Love yourself wholly and be YOU. Happiness flows from that core.

Peace and ease,

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2018 Is Already Miraculous!

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I am releasing worry.

No more worry about time. No more worry about money. No more worry about my ability to achieve my dreams. No more worry about anything.

I know the Universe has my back. It’s something I’ve believed for a long time, but I’ve not been PRACTICING knowing that.

The thing is, when I’m connected, aligned, in flow, I know the Truth…

The Truth that I am confident and capable… That I don’t ever have to worry about time…  That I don’t ever have to worry about money… That I do not have to worry about what others think of me…

Because I trust everything happens in the perfect timing for me. Because I trust that money flows with ease and I will always be taken care of. Because I trust that when I am living in alignment, being my best self, no one else’s opinion matters to me and I feel AMAZING!

 

I always receive exactly what I need, and everything always works out for the best for me at the perfect time.

 

I KNOW this stuff, but I haven’t KNOWN it as a “way of life”. I haven’t OWNED it. I haven’t made a daily practice of it. And so, I haven’t brought that reality into form consistently. I’ve let my inner critic run the show a lot. The critic who says “it’s not real because well… where’s the damn evidence?!”

I’M SO DONE WITH THAT SHIT. How about you?

I reject my inner critic’s reality. I CHOOSE to remember EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. That my reality is the one I know in my heart to be True (with a capital “T”). The one where I already have it all. Exactly the way I want it. And I’m so grateful for having that reality, for having the ability to feel what it’s like and see it clearly in my mind’s eye. I am able to let go of “wanting” it (a vibration of lack), because I can experience it NOW, in the reality I created in my mind, at any time.

I know that it’s real because it FEELS RIGHT. It feels strong. It is an inner knowing that cannot be denied.

And from this place, all I have to do each day is:

1. Remember, feel, and be grateful for my ideal vision of reality. Operate from the mindset, the knowing in my heart, that THAT IS my reality.

2. Take action to make my reality visible to the rest of the world; to make it real to everyone else.

3. Reject my inner critic’s every attempt to keep things the same, by CHOOSING to remember my Truth instead, and hold to that Truth with tenacity.

 

Every day I am SURPRISED AND DELIGHTED by evidence of my ability to create my reality into form.

 

Are you with me?

C’MON! 2018 IS GOING TO KNOCK OUR SOCKS OFF!

Start by getting clear on how you want to FEEL.

Then determine what your life would look like if you felt that way.

What would you be doing? What’s surrounding you? Where do you live? Who is with you? How does your body look? Your work? Your relationships? Your lifestyle, fun, spirituality? What kind of mindset do you have? Habits? Beliefs? And keep tapping into how you feel.

How do you FEEL?

HOW DO YOU FEEL?

Really FEEL IT! Feel your beautiful body. Feel your awesome emotions. Feel your powerful positive mindset.

See it. Feel it. It’s real. KNOW that it’s REAL for you right now! Be grateful for it!

Now, decide how you will keep reminding yourself of THAT reality – Your Truth – Your Inner Reality, so you can bring it into the physical realm where everyone else can see it too.

Operate from that mindset every day and be vigilant about maintaining it against all odds.

Here’s to a miraculous year!

Peace, Ease & Love,
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P.S. 

Are you thinking you need more of this? Are you thinking you’d like me to personally guide you along this path to peace, ease and a more balanced, healthy, stress-free life? I am taking new one-on-one clients! Click here to apply and we’ll see if we’re a good fit.

Not ready for that yet? I totally get it.

Did you know I have a private FB Group? “High Vitality Life Designers” is a friendly space where you can ask me questions and I will answer personally! Click here to request to join!

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