How Forgiveness Makes You Stronger, Not Weaker

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Lack of forgiveness is a big obstacle to manifesting your desired life. This negative energy will block you from being able to manifest positive things in your life.  Remember, like attracts like – if you dwell on negative thoughts, you will attract negative events.

We have learned from society to be unforgiving; we learn to judge and punish ourselves and others for “bad” behaviour.  Most grudges arise out of our own judgements of someone’s actions or words that hurt us. It is the judgement of it being “bad” that ignites anger.  However, it would serve you well to remember that judgement is just a perspective. Don’t get caught in the trap of making a situation more terrible than it is.

Often times people may feel that a great injustice has been done to them and the only way they can exact any kind of punishment on the offender is to hold a grudge.  They may be thinking, “They’ll be sorry for what they did.” Others may be afraid to forgive because they want to remember what can happen if they find themselves in the same problematic situation again. They may say, “I’ll never fall for that again; lesson learned,” and then vow to never forgive or forget.

“You don’t have to hold on to the pain, to hold on to the memory.” -- Janet Jackson

The real victim when you choose not to forgive is YOU. You are the one who is thinking about it and generating emotional energy around it such as anger and resentment. Holding a grudge weakens you; it doesn’t make you stronger.  You are the victim of the event and then if you choose not to forgive, you remain the victim by reliving the event repeatedly.  The other person may simply be sorry and move on.

NOT forgiving is a waste of your manifesting energy! It requires double the effort and energy of forgiving because you have to work to maintain the grudge; you need to remember the bad event and then muster up the negative emotions to maintain the resentment. Since the law of attraction does not consider the past, only the present and your plans for the future, holding a grudge is just wasting your energy on something you cannot control or change because it’s in the past. The only thing you will manifest is more negativity.

“Our capacity to make peace with another person and with the world depends very much on our capacity to make peace with ourselves.” -- Thich Nhat Hanh

You also must forgive yourself for your own past mistakes in order to be able to manifest something better.  If you don’t forgive yourself, you are instilling the belief that you don’t deserve anything better. You relive your mistakes and punish yourself repeatedly in the process. 

Forgiveness frees you from resentment and allows you to heal. With forgiveness comes the freedom from the cycle of negative thinking, and an opportunity to live a more joyful life. Set yourself free from the prison of being a victim. No longer relinquish control to your anger. Rise above it.

“Forgiveness has nothing to do with absolving a criminal of his crime. It has everything to do with relieving oneself of the burden of being a victim--letting go of the pain and transforming oneself from victim to survivor.” ― C.R. Strahan


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